(NEW YORK) — Dr. Ruth Westheimer is a renowned psychosexual therapist whose straightforward approach to sex and relationship advice made her an American icon for decades.
Dr. Ruth first made a name for herself in the 80s with her radio program, Sexually Speaking, in which she would speak frankly about all matters concerning the bedroom. Since then, she has appeared in every form of media: hosting her own national TV talk shows, having a regular Ask Dr. Ruth column, producing five documentaries, writing 36 books, including Sex For Dummies, and even on Twitter.
Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Dr. Ruth offers her tips for spicing up your love life.
1. Bring Flowers
“Bringing flowers is good. Sending flowers ahead of time is better. A woman needs more time to become aroused so looking at those flowers all day will help put her in the mood.”
2. The Best Gift of All? A Massage
“What’s the best gift you can give your partner? A massage. It feels good, your touch will warm his or her body and soul, and best of all, it doesn’t cost a cent.”
3. Make Your Own Love Nest
“Instead of going out, order in and decorate with candles. Make your own love nest. Plus, you’ll be closer to the bedroom.”
4. Whisper Sweet Nothings
“Some men know they’re supposed to be romantic but they are not sure what that means. The best way to set a romantic mood is to whisper sweet nothings in your partner’s ears. If you make her feel treasured and special the two of you will be drenched in romance.”
5. Have a Positive Outlook
“The key to good sex is to have a positive outlook. If you assume you’ll be having good sex you will. If you assume you won’t, you won’t.”
6. Play It Safe
“How important is birth control? If you’re worried about causing an unintended pregnancy, you’ll enjoy Valentine’s day more if you play it safe. Don’t think of contraceptives as a damper, instead think of them as an enhancement.”
7. Do Something Active
“Most people think of going out to dinner as what you do on Valentine’s Day but there are alternatives. Anything that gets your circulation going will make you both feel sexier. If there’s someplace nearby where you can ice skate that would be perfect. Or go for a run, then share a nice warm bath. Get your circulation moving and I guarantee you that you’ll have a great time.”
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